• Tori Yeasky

6 Tips for Getting Back Into Dating Post-Breakup


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There’s no sugarcoating it: #breakups suck. And unless you somehow found your soulmate on the first try, chances are you’re extremely likely to experience at least a few breakups in your lifetime. Despite the fact that they may often be sad and difficult to get through, it’s important to learn how to deal with them so you can ultimately return to the dating scene back and better than ever. Keep reading to check out our top six tips when getting back into dating post-breakup!


1. Understand your feelings

Before you try to put yourself back out there, it’s important to first understand your feelings and gauge where you’re at mentally, emotionally, and physically. Do yourself a favor by checking in to assess where you’re at, how you’re doing, and where you feel you can go next.


Mila Tip: Focusing on self-love is one way to help you better reflect and understand your feelings!


2. Take time to process things

Many people might resort to rushing back into the dating scene in an effort to take their mind off the breakup or fill the void it may have caused. While some might be happy doing this, and while everyone’s situation is different, a good rule of thumb is to try not to rush yourself before you’re ready. It’s important to really take time to process your emotions, thoughts, goals, etc. before getting back into dating again — for the sake of yourself, your future partner, and your future relationship.


3. Don’t compare new love to your ex

When searching for a new love interest, it will probably be tempting and feel only natural to compare them to your last relationship. However, doing this will only make you dwell further on your past. If you make such comparisons you might end up trying to relive your past hoping for a better outcome, or provide yourself with a set of false expectations. Whatever the case is, try your best to move on and live your new relationship in its own right.


4. Ditch the dating rules

Throw all the rules out of the window and go with a clean slate! After a breakup, it’s important to do what feels right for you and focus 100% of your energy on doing what makes you happy. Believe in yourself, trust your instincts, and just try your best to keep moving forward.


5. Never let it affect your confidence

While some breakups may leave you feeling like you’ll never date again, it’s important to always remain confident in yourself — especially as you re-enter the dating scene. Confidence plays a key role in dating and largely influences how you view yourself and your relationships. No matter how rough the breakup, you should never let it bring down your sense of self-worth and value.


Mila Tip: Remember that you are beautiful, you are worthy, and you will find love again!


6. Focus on yourself and your own goals

Breakups are the perfect time for introspection and self-discovery. Being on your own allows you to focus on building yourself and achieving your own goals without having a partner to worry about. After a breakup, you have full liberty to do what you want. So, take advantage of it and live your best life for yourself!


No matter the circumstance, it’s important to keep these tips in mind as you navigate the #dating scene once again following a breakup. In case no one told you yet today, you’ve got this!!! Oh, and Mila will have your back throughout the entire process ;)

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